Today we have a lovely Iron Mountain California Anniversary Session shot by Bailey Lane Photos to share with you!! Kayla and David have a wonderful outlook on life and marriage that we’re excited to share with you!!!
Meet Kayla and David!
How long have you been married? What is your anniversary date? Where were you married?
My husband and I got married on June 19th, 2010 (which makes it 7 years this coming June!) out at my parents ranch, 7 miles West of Marshall, MN.
The ranch had special meaning to me. It’s where I grew up, rode my horse every day, worked cattle, and it was also a piece of land that had been handed down to my Great Great Great Aunt Birdie by the president himself WAY WAY back in the day! My grandma also said that they’d wake up in the morning back in the day to tribes of Indians moving around the ranch and setting up their tepees!
How did you meet your spouse?
David and I actually went to the same college. I was going for photography and he was going for farm management. We met through two mutual friends! I was invited one night to a college friends get together and when we were playing card games, I saw David sitting across the table! Most people don’t believe in love at first sight, but I do. When I saw him sitting across from that table, something in my heart knew that he would be special to me and that someday I’d be married to him!
After that night at the get together, we started hanging out and getting to know each other. Not more than a week into getting to know each other we started officially dating! Our relationship went CRAZY fast!
We dated for three months, he asked me to marry him on the fourth of July that year, and nine months later we were getting married and saying YES to forever together! No I wasn’t pregnant either! When you know, you just know, and I saw no point in waiting around for a few years to make sure of something that I already knew in my heart that was meant to be! He is my everything!
Why or how did you choose your anniversary session location? How is it relevant to your wedding or marriage?
I’ve always been a country girl, so has my husband! We both grew up on farms in Minnesota. We’re by no means “city people” so we love to do our yearly anniversary sessions out in the country since it represents who we are and where we came from! We chose Iron Mountain because I had been dying to do a beautiful mountain countryside anniversary session since we’re now living in Southern California and the golden morning light that wrapped us up was STUNNING!
What is your favorite date night?
Ever since we started dating, our one date night that we’ve always loved was going out to eat and to the movies! It’s just become our thing! Since we lived in a small town before moving to Southern California, our choice of date nights was limited to going out to eat, the movie theater, bowling, or shopping at Walmart (Yes, I’m dead serious!). We’re both big movie lovers and I also grew up always going out to eat with my family, so we combined the two, and our favorite date night was born! Haha!
What is your best marriage advice?
We’ve went through our fair share of struggles so far in our marriage. My advice would be:
– To ALWAYS always always make time for each other no matter what. No matter how busy you are. No matter if you have kids or not. NO MATTER WHAT!
– To enjoy the little things and to not sweat the small stuff.
– Don’t hold grudges against each other and to apologize to your spouse even if it’s not your fault, then talk about it calmly like adults.
– Find things that you love to do TOGETHER and go do them. Don’t wait to do the things you love to do!
– To talk about finances together, make a budget together, and make a savings plan together! It sucks talking about money, but it sucks even worse when you have to try to dig yourself out of a hole because you didn’t come up with a plan.
What is the hardest thing that you’ve gone through as a couple?
The hardest thing by far was the year of 2014, when my husband told me he wanted to join the Marine Corps. Back before I had met my husband I had swore I would NEVER marry a military man because I was afraid of becoming a widow! I had only ever watched movies and then the Iraqi war happened, I didn’t want any of that. So when my husband told me I was mad and depressed all at the same time. He gave me the option to choose if he did or not and I fought with it back and forth on what to choose.
Something else I’ve learned in marriage, is that you need to support your spouses dreams too and be there to support them through it no matter how hard it is for you. My husband has supported me through for my photography business since the day I started it and he has let me do my photography business full time, even though I was still building a clientele. He believed in me, still does! I am forever grateful for him supporting me like he has been!
The year of 2014 I went through every emotion on the chart that you can think of. It was downright HARD and TERRIFYING because I knew NOTHING about the military world. But I knew I couldn’t hold him back from his dreams and that I needed to be there to support him like he’s been supporting me. That’s what we do for each other!
Through those months leading up to him shipping out for bootcamp, I learned two things, 1. Always make time for your spouse, because time is short and you don’t want to miss out on living your life with them and 2. Don’t bottle everything up inside, let it out, and talk to your spouse.
By the time he left for bootcamp, I was stronger than I ever had been emotionally! It was EXTREMELY hard saying goodbye to him at the airport, knowing I wouldn’t get to see or talk to him for the next three months. But we wrote letters as often as we could, I wrote every single day (8-16 page letters mind you!) and he wrote whenever he had the chance during bootcamp. To be honest, it actually strengthened our marriage going through this. I never thought it would, but it did. In our letters I wrote EVERYTHING that was on my mind and opened up. When we finally seen each other after 3 long months, I felt a stronger bond to my husband that I had before too!
From there, things got easier and things got better! We went through more time apart while he trained, I moved to Missouri for 3 months to be with him for one of the training periods, and then I moved my wedding photography business out to Southern California when we got stationed here. Now we’re facing our first upcoming deployment this year and I know in my heart, that it’ll all be fine, that we’ll survive, and that our marriage will come out even stronger at the end of it! Supporting him has been one of the best decisions I’ve made for us and I’m thankful to have grown stronger because of it!
What is the hardest thing about marriage for you guys?
The hardest thing about marriage is a couple of things actually! Talking about finances I’d say is number one, I hate talking about money, unless it’s how many new clothes or what new photography tools I’m going to buy!
Number two would be opening up to each other about how we feel and about serious things! I grew up bottling everything in, so it’s been hard for me to just say how I’m feeling or to talk about serious things willingly. But it’s gotten SO much better since 2014 when he decided to join the Marine Corps and I realized I had to! The others are deciding who’s going to cook for lunch and dinner (we both hate cooking!), and agreeing on what to do on the weekends together other than watching Netflix!
What is the most amazing thing about marriage for you guys?
Getting to go through life with my best friend and the love of my life by my side! Overcoming our fears and challenges together! Chasing our dreams together and supporting each other! Traveling together!
Why an anniversary session? What inspired you to do it?
Being a wedding photographer myself, I believe in having yearly anniversary photos taken to document our memories together and our lives together!!!! I also believe that if I’m telling my photography clients to have their photos taken, I should have mine taken too. Essentially, I practice what I preach! Haha!
Photos are one of the most important things to me! These photographs will be there to remind us of all the amazing memories, the struggles we’ve overcome, and journeys we’ve had together years down the road! When we’re old and start to forget our memories, these photos will be there to remind us! My entire home is filled with our photos together and to be able to be surrounded every single day by our memories, I am reminded how blessed we are to have each other and am able to relive those precious memories every single day!
How has marriage made you grow as a person and/or couple?
Marriage has given me a whole new perspective on life! It’s made me stronger emotionally, taught me to always make time for each other, to support each other in our dreams + goals in life, that everything isn’t always just about ourselves, to look at the positives in everything, and to enjoy life (big things and little things).
What are you looking forward to in your marriage in the next 10 years?
I’m looking forward to continuing to support each other in our dreams + goals. To continue growing together as a couple! To travel together. To someday own our own home out in the country where we’ll have horses and a pet cow (yes, I love cows!).